WHY PEOPLE STAY
IN IMPOSSIBLE RELATOINSHIPS:
1. Constantly surviving or getting over hardship gives us access/ evidence of our power, strength, resiliency, humanity, our aliveness, & our mortality
2. the contrast between chaos & meltdowns to recovery & ease can feel epic (inconsistent rewards are like crack to the brain)
3. The beliefs being reinforced over & over are:
'There is nothing I couldn't do / survive',
'There's no one I couldn't love',
'There's nothing I can't handle'.